When you look around in society you notice many people, but how many of them do you actually tie no prejudice or assumptions to? It’s hard wired within us to make assumptions, but it can often be a limiting trait.
Here’s how it works. You see a ferocious dog with extremely sharp teeth, is fear an immediate response for most people? Probably, yes. There’s sufficient grounds for this – we’re afraid because we believe a danger exists and this is passed down through generations. The human brain has adapted different responses to different situations – one of them being perceived danger.
So why do we naturally make so many assumptions about the people around us? I think the main reason is just a fear of the unknown, we’ve learned to tie fear to the things that we are uncertain of rather than tying a sense of opportunity. This can be caused by a number of things, but nothing more prominently than our experiences. Every time our trust is broken by another person, we begin to build these walls that block out anything that has the potential to hurt us again.
We’ve formed this sense of fear to anything and everything, and it can take time to slowly pull down the bricks of the wall to eventually find out that what is on the other side is actually far better than we had anticipated.
A shift of perspective is needed to make this change. We need to look at others with the belief that they can teach us something. Everyone has a story, including ourselves. As well as this, if you take the time to listen to another person’s story, they will often listen to yours – try it sometime.
We all have stories to share and stories to receive. The aim is that the stories we share can inspire others and that the stories we hear can inspire us too. Sometimes you get placed in a situation with a completely random person and you may never see them again. But the story you hear from them may have a lasting impact on us.
Think about celebrities for a example. They are constantly sharing their own stories and they have millions of people who listen, but how many of them do they actually get to meet – not many.
So never forget that your story is just as important as others’. You could be inspiring people who have merely overheard you conversation. But, most importantly we must be open to others around us so that we can explore the potential possibilities that exist in their stories and perspectives – an immeasurable learning experience.
Everyone has a story.
~ Adam, 2019